bookmark_borderOur Generation: Millennials

We are more unique than any previous generation and arguably any future generations. We millennials are bearing the brunt of the biggest societal change in human history. Although most don’t see it yet, looking back on this period will show a colossal shift that dwarfs that of the agricultural and industrial revolutions, fundamentally changing human society.

Once we see this massive shift for what it is, trends and events that once frustrated us start to make sense. As a result of understanding our world, we can better navigate it, and ultimately enjoy the time we have here more.

Who are we?

Why are we so misunderstood?

How the internet changes everything…

Who Are We?

As commonly defined, we are the children of Baby Boomers – born between 1981 and 1996. But, as we will see, you can be Millennial in mind or heart at any age.

Amongst all the other stereotypes about millennials, one fact is true: We are the first generation to grow up with the internet… and this changes everything.

Wikipedia: The World’s Consensus on Millennials

Who are these millennials?

Viewed through the lens of past generations, we do some funky stuff:

  • Make money off selfies
  • Meet our life partners on dating apps
  • Consider playing video games a sport
  • Delay starting a family
  • Celebrate gangster rap
  • And so much more…

And we’ve been assigned some stereotypes:

  • Entitled – wait, so, you can’t just set things on cruise control after college?
  • Praise-hungry – since everyone got a trophy in our little leagues!
  • Job-hoppers – corporations don’t reward loyalty any more now than they did before.
  • Idealistic – because wanting to be socially and environmentally responsible is important to us (why was making money the only focus before?)
  • Addicted to phones – this one is probably true for many of us…

BUT we should not accept judgements from a generation that doesn’t understand that the pre-internet past is not a model for the future.

Why are we more different than any previous generations?

The internet has changed the game more than most older generations can fathom. I don’t blame them. For thousands of years power dynamics and methods for information exchange have been the same.

The ruling class ruled, the working class worked, the serf class slaved.

Information came from central sources: the church, the king, the governor, the newspaper, the radio, TV news.

Now what?

The rug is being pulled out from underneath the framework of society. Access to the internet enables social mobility and unfettered access to information.

Of course, there are the exceptions. Any baby boomer will gladly tell you “people in China don’t have free access to information”. While there is some truth to this, exceptions do not prove the rule. Trajectory of access to information via the internet is undeniable.

In 2012 about 2 Billion people had internet access. By 2016 it was 3 Billion. Most estimates now place us at 5 Billion or more.

Our World in Data

The Internet Changes Everything…

Access to Information

Throughout the entire 1900’s access to information didn’t change much. Gatekeepers decided what information to share and how to share it. Even with the radio and TV, there was virtually no mass peer-to-peer information exchange or unlimited access to information resources. All information came from the top down.

In the 2000’s the internet change everything.

Here’s a quick recap on the evolution of the access to information:

  • Scholars & Scribes – Pre 1440 the exchange of information was controlled by scholars who had access and the education to decipher text. The only way for anyone to get information was through word of mouth or by getting a book that was hand copied by a scribe.
  • Printing Press – Post 1440 books were copied and distributed at an exponentially higher scale. More people had access to it, but the traditional gatekeepers still remained.
  • Radio – Proliferated in the early to mid 1900s.
  • Television – Proliferated in the late 1900s.
  • Internet – Y2K

Politics & Power

Access to information and the means of peer-to-peer communication change the dynamics of power more than we realize and faster than we think. That’s why a few events in 2016 shocked the world.

If information was limited to the filters of print, radio, and TV…

  • Fringe ideas like Q Anon would have less channels to spread and gain traction
  • It would be more difficult for foreign governments to reach US citizens with propaganda
  • Politicians would be less incentivized to get into the spotlight and more incentivized to solve real problems
  • Voters would have less information, but likely less-polarized information

Yes, it is very plausible that the explosion of information access and peer-to-peer communication has a negative impact on our society and our well being.

However, I am optimistic about the long term benefits and see our current era of confusion as growing pains. We’re misapplying the power of the internet because we don’t understand it yet. It’s like we are dealing with alien technology. We don’t know how to use it yet. So far we’ve applied it for:

  • Infant Internet – sharing of info between universities
  • Toddler Internet – sharing of cat and dog videos, chat rooms
  • Teenage Internet – porn and chat room trolling
  • College Internet – rush to monetize anything and everything by everyone
  • Grad School Internet – TBD
  • Professional Internet – TBD

Daily Life

Having access to the rest of the world in the palms of our hands changes what we do from sun up to sun down. We’ve replaced a multitude of gadgets with one: the cell phone + internet. Along with that we’ve changed long-standing habits.

Tremendous changes have come to how we navigate, communicate, and spread ideas.

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Paper Map & CompassLandlines + Pen & PaperCell Phones
CurrierUSPSCell Phones
The BibleAlmanacs & EncyclopediasThe Internet

Last Thoughts

  1. The societal transition we’re experiencing is disjointed. It’s happening faster in some areas than others. I expect to see the seeds of change start in small pockets, with pockets of hold-outs (think of the Omish community in today’s US society).
  2. We should recognize this societal change for what it is and adjust the way we live our lives accordingly. Don’t live life in the new world by following the blueprint of the old world. While many principles will transition, many of the old rules do not apply.

bookmark_borderHow To Find A Mate

Finding a mate is relatively easy.

Finding one you really like, or “love” as we like to call it, is not so easy for most.

Maintaining that “love” is even more difficult.

Here’s how to find a good one

Step 1: Ask yourself these questions:

  1. What do I really want in a mate?
  2. What would that type of person look for in their ideal mate?
  3. Who do I need to be to attract the type of person I really want?

Step 2: Focus on becoming the type of person your ideal mate can not resist.

The Philosophy

We focus too much on generalities without taking care of the day-to-day things that make up a healthy and fulfilling life.

We aren’t truthful with ourselves. We’re out of touch with reality in a way that is self detrimental.

Our conception of love is formed by unrealistic representations of relationships in movies, songs, and on social media

Our ingestion of media causes us to misinterpret other people’s relationships because we see the highlights of their “love” and not the struggles they are enduring together on a regular basis. Examples:

  • The all-too-perfect engagement photos
  • The professionally photographed holiday card
  • The Facebook update about their gender reveal

We are barraged with these on a daily basis.

Imagine only watching the highlight real of a basketball player and expecting that’s how they perform on every single play of the game. Then setting the expectation for yourself that this is how you should play.

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We ingest the highlight reals of other couples, then project that on to our own lives, setting the bar way too high.

How can everything be so perfect all the time?

The Hard Truth

Humans are animals.

We have a brain designed for hunter gatherer and small tribe live, but we live in a modern world with smart phones and Instagram updates.

To find and maintain love, we need to bring ourselves back to reality.

We do that by asking and answering the tough questions.

  • What do I really want?
  • What will life really be like with my “ideal” mate?
  • What work do I need to do to become the person that can maintain a health relationship with my ideal mate?

bookmark_borderThe Human’s Source of Motivation

The human’s source of motivation is cemented firmly in its DNA, placed there by millions of years of evolution. 
Some combination of As, Ts, Cs, and Gs translates to man’s drive to live and reproduce.

We all have this gene (or collection of genes). It is what moves the biological world forward. Without it, life would slowly dissipate into darkness.

The basis of all life is to keep it going. 

Reproduction * Environmental Experiment  over Time = Evolution

Happiness, fulfillment, accomplishment; These can even be translated into hormones and molecular structures. Dopamine and serotonin are what the human strives for. Actions that support the human’s chances of survival and reproduction are rewarded in the brain.

What is your next goal?